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This Canadian girl looks very beautiful. What made you come to Japan? What made you interested in Japan?

First, I think I’ve always loved like, Japanese things since I was little. But I didn’t know they were Japanese. Pokemon, and like video games and stuff like that.

What’s the obvious difference between Japanese boys’ personality and Western boys’ personality? And about girl’s as well.

In Canada, they are really outgoing and, like, outspoken. So we, like, express our feelings, like how we’re feeling at that moment. And then it’s not like weird if you do that. But like in Japan, women are especially, I think, are expected to act in a certain way. So, even if they are an outgoing person, they still have to, like, act like-

Have you ever felt “Oh I get this because I’m gaijin.” I don’t say gaijin usually but like, you know. I know foreign people say “ah because I’m gaijin.” Have you ever felt something like this in Japan?

You mean like bad things?

Yeah like for example like I don’t get obvious uh racism or anything like that.

But I feel like sometimes you know when you go to buy some, okay you run out your Iphone charger. Your iphone charger is broken so you gotta go to um, you know shopping center or something. and then I said oh I’m looking for an iphone charger and then maybe like, I want to get the cheap one. and then sometimes you know the guys are like “oh just over there mate” “just grab it.” Like this I’m like ”okay is it because I’m asian like do you do you act like this.” “If white lady comes there and asks you” like “oh where is the iphone charger?” “Would you like, treat customers like that?” “I don’t think so.”

I’m like ”okay is it because I’m asian like do you do you act like this.” “If white lady comes there and asks you” like “oh where is the iphone charger?” “Would you like, treat customers like that?” “I don’t think so.”

It’s just an example but have you ever felt something like this?

Yeah I don’t feel that discriminated against. I think as much as some other people might. I think a lot of the time it comes with,like, people are like they expect foreigners not to be able to speak Japanese right. So, like, as soon as I speak Japanese they’re like “Oh this person speaks Japanese okay, I can treat them like a normal person.” I think I felt that way in the hospital, kind of actually when I was giving birth. I think they kind of treated me a bit differently than, you know like, other patients.

Yeah, I just want to say like people who’re watching this video. I, please don’t judge what she says. She’s just saying you know her experience as much, as much as she can because I ask this question and she tries to figure out what she can say. So she’s not against you know Japanese people or anything just-

no no no no

Remember you know all the things.

Yeah

I honestly I I don’t feel that much discrimination because

I don’t feel that much in Australia too so maybe we’ll feel the same.

I think it’s because I act you know the way that Japanese people are expected to act so I try to blend in.

one thing I was surprised when i started getting know about foreign cultures. like our image like white girls have a blonde hair. well actually most of you guys dye hair.

Like there there are a lot of people who have naturally blonde hair but I think the majority, majority of us dye it. even when I have pink hair though people ask me if it’s my real hair color

Oh my god can’t be real.

I was like “Are you serious?”

So I assume that you have a lot of non-Japanese friends who are pretty much like you and you know the people who have been in Japan for ages. Is there, is there any Japanese culture that you and your friends suffered a lot from take a long time to get used to?

I don’t know if I don’t know if it would be considered culture but washing dishes,

Like we don’t have, there’s no dishwashers here really it’s not very common.

Oh that’s true that’s very true

It’s like a constant battle here, I’ve, I know I sound so privileged but my friend and I talk about this all the time. like every time I see her she’s always like, “I hate washing dishes.”

Because even in Australia in this house we have a dishwasher.

So like. you usually I think we just put like one day’s worth of dishes in the dishwasher, right?

But like another thing is like like hanging clothes up outside to dry. I I asked my friend if she like, what she thought. and she said like people don’t say “bless you” when you sneeze.

they just ignore hey

Yeah, you sneeze like for us when we come here no one says bless you so we sneeze and then We look around like why didn’t anyone say bless you no one cares.

No one says bless you. They’re like, be quiet. Don’t give me COVID.

Yeah don’t get your germs on me you know

Yeah, I’m very curious about this and I guess you’re a perfect person to ask this question.

Who do you think actually looks attractive to, attractive to Western girls who are not interested in, who are not interested in Japan or anything?

So, pretty much like foreign girls on the street maybe outside Australia, Sydney.

I mean, in the Japanese male celebrity. For example, let’s say the vocalist of Sandaime J Soul Brothers. And let’s say the boys from Johnny’s Junior. They probably look attractive to many, not everyone, but many Japanese girls but I don’t think they are to, you know, foreign girls. So if you can pick one or some? What Japanese celebrities do you look attractive to girls and foreign girls in a foreign country?

Like I am interested in Japanese men so I can’t be like the spokesperson for Western　like women.

So okay I know you’re married now. But you’re not you were not interested in like Western people? Western guys?

I am but um, like I also interested in like, I think I’m like more attracted to asian men but I also like foreign men. like I don’t really-

You don’t really care about where they from.

Yeah I don’t really care about where they’re from.

Yeah

But Yeah I’ve heard that Western women like, like Yama P. He’s got like a good body and like he’s got like he’s like pretty, but like, he’s like handsome but pretty at the same time.

Yeah

And he’s got like a nice voice. I think too and, yeah I think he might be like attractive to like Canadian women maybe.

I think I feel like um uh like Western women, like, like bulkier men are like more attracted to like men with a bit of a bigger body. Um I said before like, manly man, right? Like, like uh Nagase Tomoya. I think like, he’s pretty, like, attractive too. Or like I personally like Fujiki Naohito. He’s really handsome.

I think like, people like them, maybe. Yeah

So now it is a very unfortunate and tricky situation to go overseas because of the pandemic. However there are obviously many people who are willing to learn English and also, maybe interested in having a date or relationship with a foreign girl or boy, you know?

You are in a relationship now, Tia. But what do you think is the best way for Japanese people to meet people like you? You know, who came from another country and live in Japan?

What’s the best way to meet this kind of people?

Do foreign girls and boys in Japan use, like, Tinder or matching apps?

Like Tinder, Bumble and, like, stuff like that. I think if you’re looking to date someone.

I mean there’s no harm in like if you find someone on Instagram like, just shoot them a DM, right?

That’s apparently big in the Western countries but I didn’t know that. Does it happen in Japan?

I have no idea, I can’t say anything.

I don’t I don’t think so. But uh apparently it’s a big thing in Western countries. So you know things that go viral in the Western countries tend to come to Japan later on. So I think　it also can be in the mainstream or like looking for a partner and stuff.

Yeah well like definitely if you’re trying to, if you’re like, interested in a foreign woman. I mean we’re used to doing it that way so, but like also I would recommend going to like, bars.

Hub? British Hub?

Yeah, like hub. If you go to hub that’s where everyone hangs out so.

What do they have to say? “Hey how’s your night been?”

Yeah. “Hey how’s your night been?”

“Just trying to be very honest that you’re super hot.”

That might be a good way to start.

Yeah something like that. I think it’s much like I don’t say, Like, in a bad way but I think it’s much easier to be successful in Japan than in, like, trying to do that in foreign countries. Because I think the people. Okay let’s talk about girls. Like, let’s say girls who live in Japan, who live in Japan, foreign girls I mean. They live in Japan because they’re interested in Japan somehow.

Some of them just work but you know I think there are chances, big chances or opportunities.

Yeah definitely. I think women here I think are uh, more like, more likely to be attracted to Japanese men.Um people who come here, they’re looking for an adventure, right?

Yeah

Yeah they look like they want to meet new people. They want to have experiences. I think a lot of people, like, they don’t mind it when people just start talking to them.

That’s very good to know. Last question, Of course you’re a Canadian girl., you must know the general personality of Western girls.

I know everyone has a different personality. But you know what I mean? Like, Japanese have a Japanese personality? Japanese have a Japanese personality. And I guess you know about the general personality of Japanese boys too, because you’re, you’ve been there for awhile, quite a long time. So like the last question if Japanese boys say that they want to go on a date or have a relationship with the foreign girls, What sort of advice you would give if you know someone comes up to you and ask for an advice? Saying like “What do I have to be careful of?” or like “What’s the tip?” What do you say?

Some advice for when you are hitting on someone.

Is what I want to say because I feel very strongly about this. It is like if they’re speaking Japanese, don’t tell them they’re Japanese is very good. Don’t be like, ”Wow your Japanese is so good” like uh like don’t say like that or don’t say like “Eigo o oshiete kudasai” “Eigo o benkyo shitaidesu” or like I don’t think.

I was very turned off by, I don’t know turned off but

Yeah you get bored very easily.

‘Cause you get like a million times and then you’re like this guy is very normal.

Yeah, yeah. It’s like the same thing over and over and over again and it’s just boring.

and I know that they’re just trying to be nice by, like, asking and they’re just and they’re very curious and I know that. so it’s okay to ask that, like, later on.

But not like in the first few sentences. You know talk about something else first and then　lean into asking them, like,

how the Japanese and how long they’ve been here. Because you start to feel like you’re just an object when you’re asked that all the time.

Like I kind of felt like I’m just seen as like a, I’m just a foreigner. They just think I’m like an English teacher, that’s gonna teach them English for free.

In the relationship I would say like, be sensitive to towards uh, their feelings.

Like I’ve said like many times, we like to express ourselves. And I think that can often become like a conflict between the two cultures. Be considerate about their feelings and also cultural differences.

Um I think it’s important to to discuss. I think there’s a lot of misunderstandings in relation, in uh international relationships.

I think in people who’s watching my channel. um there are many people you know who kind of like admires um international couples. But I would say if you want to have a nice healthy international couple relationship, in the beginning like we said you need to compromise in the middle. like you can’t do Japanese all the time.

Yeah It’s a lot of compromise. it’s a lot of talking.

It takes a lot of effort to be nice and healthy. This video was a lesson, say you know, if you want to have a really international relationship, it’s going to be. Like it’s weird to say and I don’t want to say this because everyone’s different.. But basically it’s going to be tougher than you know having someone who’s who comes from the same culture and background. Everyone’s different but It’s gonna be tricky.

But then it’s more, it can be more enjoyable too.

Yeah just do whatever suits you.

That was all the questions that I wanted to ask you.

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